How Can I Give Up My Dog? part 2

Note: If you haven’t already, read part 1 of this post here.

Taking Seva to training classes at Helping Paws each week has been a big part of my life for over 2 years. Besides classes at the training center, we train in public several times a week. While it would be an exaggeration to say Seva has been my constant companion, I do work from home and take her places, so we see a lot of each other.

A few weeks ago, Seva spent the weekend with S., a woman in need of a successor dog who used to be a vet tech.

I spent the weekend convinced S. was falling in love with Seva. How could she not?

I’ve gone on vacation and left Seva with other Helping Paws families. It’s a nice break, like when the kids have a sleepover and you get to go out or stay in, grown-up style. This weekend was different.

I must have told myself 50 times that S. would say “yes” to Seva, and I would soon be saying “good bye” to her.

Waiting for life-changing news is never easy. (Sure, on the spectrum of life-changing news, learning whether or not I’ll get to keep a dog is relatively low, not like getting test results from a doctor. I do have perspective, but this is a blog about the Wonder Dog so bear with me.) The thing is, most news you wait for is one of two things: good or bad. Whichever way Seva’s weekend with S. went, I would be torn.

I want her. I’ll miss her. I would never stand in her way. I love her. I don’t need her. She should be with someone who needs her. S. will love her as much as I do. What if Seva misses me? I might never see her again.

And around and around I went.

When I picked up Seva from Helping Paws, I let her out of a crate and she leapt on me, all tongue and paws and uncontained joy. She’s a kisser. Always has been. The moment she was first placed in my arms, I looked down and she lifted her chin and licked my face. She was barely 8 weeks old.


  • A tired puppy.


Turns out, S. didn’t love her.

Seva had done well during the pre-matching, but didn’t want to retrieve for S. at her house. And she was a little bit naughty. Seva found some duct tape serving a purpose she couldn’t see, so she gnawed at it till she got a corner lifted and pulled it off.

She does have a naughty streak. Her new thing is to bound over while I’m working at my desk and stare me down. If I tell her to go away, she runs off and finds something to shred, like a piece of mail. My next move is to leash her to furniture. Hers is to whine. It’s a dreadful, high-pitched sound. My final move is to capitulate. We take a walk.

Besides not retrieving, some barking, and tearing of duct tape, S. reported that Seva’s allergies are bad.

Bad as in pull-her-from-the-program bad.

I heard this from one of the trainers when I picked up Seva, so it was almost official, but not quite. E. has the final say. I went to the following Big Dog class as though everything was normal, except it wasn’t.

We went to Centennial Lakes in Edina. As I walked Seva around the lake, I started thinking, this is it. Toward the end of class, I had Seva in a Drop-Stay on the sidewalk and E. came over to talk.

E. told me they couldn’t place Seva due to her allergies, and I almost cried. I admit, that’s kind of weird. I knew it was coming and had been thinking about it for 2 days. Still, when you hear it from E., it’s final. It felt like the closing of a door.

All those great reasons I had for getting into the program, all the effort put into training this dog, the classes and field trips and other training teams…done.

We agreed that I’d go on the next couple of field trips as though nothing had happened, giving E. time to make an announcement to the class. We also agreed the news could go public after the Foster Family Recognition Ice Cream Social.


The Big Dogs at Union Depot--our last class.

The Big Dogs at Union Depot–our last class.


Last night, Seva and I made our final visit to Helping Paws as a training team. I received a certificate for the work we’ve done, and E. announced that Seva is having a career change.

That’s what it’s called, a career change. I’ve heard that only about 60% of dogs graduate. Problems with the training, personality, health, even odd quirks like a phobia of stairs can prevent a dog from graduating. Seva actually had 3 strikes against her: her hip sockets are only “fair,” she’s an indiscriminate eater, and she has allergies. The hip sockets concern is minor compared to the others. She is getting better about eating everything in sight, and I don’t expect this to be a problem for long. It’s the allergies that determined her fate–and mine.


Recognizing Seva's Career Change

Recognizing Seva’s Career Change


Seva is now my dog.

What’s more, we’re going to be a demo team for Helping Paws. That means she keeps the blue pack and we will answer calls to show the world what a service dog can do for a person. In a year or two, when she’s mellowed even more, I’ll probably look into a therapy dog program as well.








16 thoughts on “How Can I Give Up My Dog? part 2

  1. Dear Alida,

    Thank you for bringing us along on the journey of Seva. It made me appreciate the training, repetition and personal involvement it takes to produce a well behaved dog. Plus it was especially informative to understand how and for what skills service dogs are trained.

    Good luck with Seva now becoming your family pet and she is bound to make a great therapy dog in the future. My sister-in-law’s golden is just marvelous in that capacity. She puts a lot of time, energy and love in training her dogs, too.

    • Thanks, Sharon. I’m glad you came along for this ride. Hard to believe it’s already been over 2 years! Seva will be a great pet and I’m looking forward to serving Helping Paws as a demo team.

  2. Very well said by Sharon. I am feeling mixed emotions for you and Seva. We all, even our puppies, have a calling and rightful place. Together, you will make a wonderful therapy team. I admire your dedication.

  3. Oh my goodness! I imagine you’re having a million feelings about this. I’m so sorry that all of the training may feel like it was for naught, but Seva will make a wonderful therapy dog, and I am so glad your journey with your pup is not over! I really think you’ll continue to do amazing things together.

  4. You’ve done an amazing job with Seva, Alida. She was a bundle of energy as a puppy and you took it all in stride, including her health issues. I know that you “get” her and it may have been that her destiny was to be with you, all along. I know you will continue to be a great team!! Congratulations on becoming a great trainer, as well!

  5. As sad as it seems, I know that having more time with Seva is also joyous. Sometimes the decisions are not in our hands, and we have to (get to?) live with them as they are handed to us. Enjoy your time with her, it will still feel short, no matter what happens. And yes, we are dealing with allergies with our wonder dog as well. We administer generic ‘Zyrtec’ and rich oil every morning to cope!

    • Nell, I am thrilled to keep her. It was just a proverbial roller coaster getting this last leg of the journey.

      I’m sorry your dealing with allergies with your dog, too. Aren’t they a bummer? I give Seva “Benadryl” every day.

  6. Alida – I found your blog through another foster home trainer as I have one of the Helping Paws labs that are about to move up to Big Dogs. I have so appreciated reading your insights (especially when you wrote about Seva being a “devil dog” until she was 18 months old!) as sometimes it seems like we are making great progress and other days it seems like we are moving backwards! When I think about what might be my pup Ella’s calling, it is hard to imagine her future. Thanks for sharing your journey with us!

    • You’re welcome, Karen. Training these dogs is quite the journey, isn’t it? I had heard, and it’s true for Seva, that right around 2 years they make a big leap in maturity and become the wonderful dogs we know they can be. Lots of hurdles along the way–as you know! Enjoy Ella and hang in there.

    • Thanks, Lisa!

      Yes, the allergies are fairly common. It’s too bad on multiple levels. Seva is seeing a specialist this week, so hopefully we can figure out what will make her more comfortable in her skin.

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