They’re Still Dogs: Sleepovers

No matter how well trained, how wonderful, how loving, they’re still dogs.

Seva has had 3 Helping Paws dogs stay with her. Last fall, Percy spent a few days with us while his foster mom traveled. Stubbs spent a night with us in July. And this week, Cash is staying with us. Seva has also stayed with other Helping Paws foster families on occasion.

Just like with children and playdates, you can’t put two dogs in a room and assume fun antics will ensue. There is some interesting dog psychology at play. This is some of the stuff I’ve observed.

 

Seva & Percy

Seva & Percy

 

1: the guest dog is usually very well behaved. It’s not his territory, so he’s minding his manners while he settles in. That doesn’t mean he won’t have fun, but he’ll defer to the home dog and humans.

When Seva stayed with Jed, we warned Jed’s dad, John, that Seva steals fabric and paper and ate a sock while on her first overnight. She didn’t steal anything, even when the laundry basket was right there in front of her! Scott and I got excited, thinking maybe she’d turned a corner, maybe Jed had taught her that eating socks is bad. But no. We were home no more than 15 minutes and she’d stolen a sock off the bedroom floor. It turns out she was just on her best behavior for Jed and John.

When another dog is here, Seva is the instigator. It’s her territory and she doesn’t need to mind her manners. In fact, she might be out to prove something. If there is wrestling in the house, Seva started it. Just ask Cash.

 

Seva & Cash--oh, sure, they look cute when they're sleeping.

Seva & Cash–oh, sure, they look cute when they’re sleeping.

 

2: not all dogs are a good match for each other. Percy was a big lap dog. All he wanted to do was lay down next to me and Scott. Seva would rather play until she crashes. Every time Percy settled in, she started biting his ear. Read about that weekend here.

Stubbs and Cash are better-suited for Seva’s favorite pastimes: run & wrestle. Here is Stubbs taking charge!

 

 

3: as with children, they will teach each other things. Cash will take a Frisbee out of your hand—and you better watch your hand!—then take a bite out of the Frisbee, then refuse to give it back to you. Guess who can’t have her balls until after Cash goes home? That’s right. Our little bear has begun resource guarding her toys. Cash is a really sweet boy, but some dogs just love their Frisbees more than others.

Seva and Cash were wrestling on the deck yesterday and look what they did!

 

Seva & Cash broke my pot.

Seva & Cash broke my pot.

 

It’s not all bad. When Seva stayed with Chuda Lono, he showed her how to leave kibble on her paws until his mom, Wendy, said Release. He also showed her how to spin around. She came home with 2 new skills that we still practice.

 

Seva & Cash find some tree and make a mess.

Seva & Cash find some tree and make a mess.

 

4: puppies get jealous, too. As sweet as she is, Seva doesn’t always want to share. She doesn’t mind someone playing with her toys or eating her food, but if Scott and I are paying attention to the other dog, here comes Seva. Our very-much-not-a-lap-dog inserts herself just to make sure we remember whose dog is whose.

Like we could ever forget!

 

That's our puppy!

That’s our puppy!

 

Age of Socialization

Think about the dogs you’ve known.

How many of them had some kind of quirk? Stella, a neighbor’s dog, did not like bikes. She barked like crazy whenever a cyclist went by—including me. I once helped my neighbor chase down Stella as she chased after a cyclist. Some dogs don’t want to walk on wet grass. They freak out if they hear a train. They bark at people in hats. Think about the dogs you’ve known. What were their quirks?

Now, think about a service dog and the myriad of situations she will find herself in, situations normal dogs never encounter: the city bus, grocery store, place of employment, restaurants, etc. Imagine the trouble it would cause if the dog won’t walk across a metal grate or board a bus or barks at the bearded coworker, etc.

Imagine that the person who spooks the dog is really important to her human’s life—a coworker or a home care assistant. Imagine that person is from a country where people don’t keep dogs as pets or is afraid of dogs. If the service dog is not absolutely well behaved, the dog will jeopardize that relationship. There are any number of reasons a person and a dog won’t get along, among them are because the dog does not know how to respond to the person’s beard or skin color or manner of dress.

Seva is at that age when things that make an impression on her, both the positive and negative, imprint permanently. Her future behavior is being shaped by her exposure and reactions to people and things now. This is the age of socialization.

Part of my job is to make sure she meets all kinds of people in a friendly, supportive manner. Fortunately, most people like puppies and she is really cute!

On Sunday, Scott and I took Seva to Urbanimal. I knew we’d have a good time in Uptown, and I was right. Urbanimal has a totally mellow shop cat named Ben. Seva saw Ben as just another four-legged-friend and was in immediate pursuit. She sniffed Ben, then licked him, tail wagging nonstop. When Ben had had enough, he swatted Seva, which she took as an invitation to wrestle, puppy style. This was where we intervened—to save our puppy. I think Ben could take care of himself.

Seva & Ben at Urbanimal.

Then it was off to Lake Calhoun and the busiest trail in town.

Seva can walk nicely. Really, she can. But, boy, you put a few hundred people around her with bikes, blades, strollers, and dogs…forget about it! She did not know what to do with herself. She was too stimulated to even open her mouth for a piece of kibble, never mind listen to me. I kept a tight grip on a short leash and managed her enthusiasm.

Seva's first trip to the big city.

Seva met a bunch of people and dogs on the trail. She got a close-up look at some in-line skates, and she watched an ice cream bike go by. She wanted to meet every person and every dog she saw, whether they wanted to meet her or not. When she’s tugging at the leash to meet someone and he passes her by, I swear it hurts her feelings. I know I’m anthropomorphizing, but you should see the look on her face. Seriously, if you ever see us on the street, make sure you stop to say hello. And if you’re wearing mirrored sunglasses or a giant hat or a welder’s mask, all the better.

At Lake Calhoun

(Also see Me and My Shadow.)